Today's post title comes to you via The Santa Clause 3 and is a much beloved line for the members of our family. So, I used it today in the hopes of getting us back on track. For those unsure of how to parse the sentence it means you need to stop undermining us while we are trying to help you - we're COOPERATING!
Today my husband caught Doodlebug sneaking off to his room with some candy he had already been told he could not have. I said to myself, "Self, do NOT blow a gasket. It is time to sit down and talk as a family and find out why and where things went awry." So, we sat down and I talking with Doodlebug about trust issues and deceifulness and how these things undermine goodwill and progress. Then I asked him why HE thought he had been sneaking around and lying lately. After some discussion he said he just wants to have some normal lunches. So, we were moving too fast...even though we hadn't even got to new FLAVORS yet.
We agreed that Monday's lunch would be pb&j with apples and Goldfish. We also reminded him that to really start appreciating foods he needed to try them at least 5 times. We did not expect him to try foods without complaint, but we did expect that he would not throw fits and yell and scream at us, but would instead give thoughtful and articulated reasons for his displeasure. I have decided that tonight I need to finish the Texture/Flavor list so he can start expanding his food vocabulary.
We will still be attemping carrots. Tomorrow Doodlebug and I will sit down and talk about what seems like a good pace to go at right now. I have learned that trying to cover ALL the issues in one family meeting just encourages him to tune out. I had him repeat back to me what we had just talked about, but in his own words. This helps me hear that he was actually listening, but it also helps things stick for him...hopefully.
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